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This third attempt at collage is brought to you by the episode of This American Life that I listened to last weekend. I usually listen to TAL or something like it as I'm going to sleep at night, so I started this one about 1:30 in the morning. There was a warning on the episode that it dealt with rape, and I thought, 'It's This American Life! How bad can it get?'

Oh, oh friends. The actual details of the rape were discussed exactly as I expected they would be, but it turns out I didn't need the warning for the rape, I needed the warning for Callous Douchebags Masquerading As A Support System. Long story short, this girl was raped during a home invasion and she reported it. She did everything right. But because she was 'detached' when she was telling people and because she was trying to act normal a day or so after the fact, the two mother figures in her life didn't believe her, which led to the police not believing her and throwing the case out and her being charged with lying. Which led to the guy getting away and more victims and another police force like, three states away actually solving the crime and getting closure for everyone.

And that's frustrating, right? That bad things can just happen and that those closest to us won't believe us? That's downright terrible. It's a fear I have lived with as those closest to me sometimes didn't believe me. So that's awful enough, but then I had to hear the following conversation with MY OWN TWO EARS, IN THIS, THE YEAR OF OUR LORD TWO THOUSAND AND SIXTEEN:

Obviously, wish I hadn't. But on the other hand, there was all these other things, you know? I mean, the police and the way that Marie was acting. I mean, she on some level needs to take responsibility for that, too. I'm sorry, but that's true. And--

Robyn Semien
What do you mean?

She needs to realize at some point, and I think she does now, that-- OK, I hate to say this. But you know, I mean-- OK, now this is going to sound really bad, like I'm blaming the victim. But some of the way that she was acting was part of the reason why it had the outcome that it did. And I am not the only person that didn't believe her.

Robyn Semien
But also, it sounds like everyone who was doubting her didn't have much information about the way that rape trauma can function. And so is this about the way that she acted?

Well, it shouldn't be about the way that she acted. But, unfortunately, the reality is that that did influence-- and it sounds really harsh for me to say that. It's not her fault because I think it's totally a product of what she went through. But on the other hand-- oh, God. I don't know.

THIS IS GOING TO SOUND REALLY BAD, LIKE I'M BLAMING THE VICTIM, BUT. But you're just gonna power through that, aren't you? I cannot believe. More than I find stories about rape personally triggering, I found this enraging. And suddenly it was 2:30 in the morning and I was all het up for no good reason. So you know, I didn't sleep last Saturday night. I've been running on empty with that conversation stuck in my craw ever since. So, anger management collage.

It was a bitch and a half to get everything layered the right away. Every time I touched it while I was testing it out I ended up screwing something up, but I think it came out okay. The header background is personally upsetting to me, but that's because I fucked it up and had to come up with an attempt to fix it. ♫ We coooould have haaaaad it aaaaaaaall. ♫ Whatever. Over all I think it's pretty rad. A++. Will try something more elaborate again.

Date: 2016-06-12 01:08 am (UTC)
yachiru: (Default)
From: [personal profile] yachiru
I'm digging your collages.

Date: 2016-06-12 02:26 am (UTC)
ext_289215: (Ouran Tamaki/Kyouya pinky swear)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks, dude!

Date: 2016-06-12 07:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I love the collage!

Date: 2016-06-14 08:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I love this collage, for real. Everything about it is in the right place.

I hate the story though, wtaf. People are terrible.

Date: 2016-06-16 02:06 am (UTC)
theemdash: (Comic Hawkguy)
From: [personal profile] theemdash
I really love this one. Even without your background, I think the message is pretty clear.

Also: just: what the fuck.


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